Margo holding Jimmy age 1 month. Margo is looking at Jimmy on her left shoulder; Jimmy is looking at the camer

Perfectionism is the Enemy of Healing

Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people … I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping stone just right, you won’t have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway, and that a lot of people who aren’t […]

Photo of upper half of Paddington the Bear statue. Paddington is wearing a blue jacket and tipping his red hat.

A Bear Called Paddington

Mr. and Mrs. Brown first met Paddington on a railway platform. In fact, that was how he came to have such an unusual name for a bear, for Paddington was the name of the station.Michael Bond I grew up with Paddington the Bear, that endearing, accident-prone, sweet-natured hero of more than two dozen books. When […]

Margo hugging a friend (only the friend's back is showing) at Jimmy's celebration of life; Margo's friend Jerry is on the left wearing a JimmySTRONG shirt

Show Up

I have tried to teach my son, just as Big Russ taught me, that as much as we wish it were otherwise, grief and loss are central to our lives, and when somebody near us loses a loved one, we have a duty to show up, to be there to help them remember; to offer […]

Blown glass piece with strands of royal blue and turquoise running through it

Dancing in Glass

After Jimmy and my mom died, I went looking for a way to keep them close to me. Something that would heal and bring a feeling of peace. After some searching, I found SoulBursts — gorgeous, unique glass memorial pieces, created by artist Michelle Kaptur in 1994 to offer people a way to celebrate the life of someone special. “A way to hold a loved one in your hand.”

Photo with blurry background of a parent and child holding hands. Only the hands and part of the wrists are in the photo.

A Moment of Silence

You do your best to reach out tenderly to touch and elevate as many people as you can reach. You bring your naked love and defiant courage and salty grace to bear as much as you can, with all the attentiveness and humor you can muster; this is, after all, a miracle in which we […]

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