Outline of a son and his father against a backdrop of words like love, hold, embrace, trust, cherish

Waiting For the Rat to Die

Of the seven deadly sins, anger is possibly the most fun. To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past, to roll your tongue over the prospect of bitter confrontation still to come, to savor the last toothsome morsel, both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back […]

Jimmy standing in a field of sunflowers; only his head and shoulders are visible

Behaving Badly

You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better. Anne Lamott

Baby's feet covered in sand. The baby is wearing a blue outfit. The background is greenish and blurry.

Making Room

Three years ago, we had a really bad thing happen. We lost a father and a husband, and I didn’t think we’d ever get over it, but then this guy next to me came into the picture, and everyone could see I was happy again .. but I was still worried about my kids, Anna […]

Mom and Barbara standing in front of the beach at Bodega Bay. Mom is wearing a green shirt over a green t-shirt; Barbara is wearing a pink shirt and has right arm around Mom.

A Wealthy Soul

I lost the first of my beloveds in 2002 when my cousin Seymour died. Seymour and his wife, Barbara (my dad’s niece) are my second parents. I grew up spending summers, vacations and holidays with them and their family. Barbara and Seymour are my parents’ best friends. They considered me their third child.

Margo holding Jimmy age 1 month. Margo is looking at Jimmy on her left shoulder; Jimmy is looking at the camer

Perfectionism is the Enemy of Healing

Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people … I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping stone just right, you won’t have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway, and that a lot of people who aren’t […]

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