There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief … And unspeakable love …
Washington Irving

After the death of a beloved, there is no avoiding the overwhelming grief or the tears. In the immediate aftermath, we may be in shock, feel numb or even be in denial about the loss. Although everyone’s timetable is different, eventually we have to acknowledge the loss and how devastated we are. No matter how painful, we must sit with our grief and all that we’ve lost in order to start healing.

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At Salt Water, we can help you learn to live with an unbearable loss. We offer ideas, strategies, tools and most importantly, hope that you can survive the death of someone you didn’t think you could live without.

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Martha, Margo and Larry at Margo's graduation. Martha is wearing a suit jacket and dark glasses. She has short gray hair. Margo is wearing a black cape and gown and carrying a bouquet of roses. Larry is wearing a brown suede suite jacket and brown tie.

When Your Last Parent Dies

For a child, the loss of a parent is the loss of memory itself. Svetlana Alexievich

Letter to KK

Remember how the beginning of each September was always filled with excitement? The unofficial start of autumn, that deliciously hectic season of fall festivals and apple picking, pumpkin carving and trick-or-treating, decorating and cookie baking. You had already started listening to Halloween music, and probably already saw Nightmare Before Christmas at least once.

The Empty Seat on the Bus

I carry you with me into the world, into the smell of rain & the words that dance between people. And for me, it will always be this way, walking into the light, remembering being alive together. Brian Andreas


Sylvia’s life forever changed on September 15th, 2017, when her daughter, Kaitlyn – KK – Cook, died by suicide at the age of 14. She gives credit to The Compassionate Friends (TCF) for getting her through the initial months of crushing grief.

Margo age 1 sitting in her high chair putting a toy close to her mouth. Her hair is dark and she's wearing a white shirt. Her mom is kneeling down next to the highchair wearing a no sleeve summer dress. She has dark hair. There are shutters behind them hiding the washing machine. The photo is black and white.

The Enormity Of The Room

I know it may sound greedy to want more days with a person who lived so long, but the fact that my mother was 92 does not diminish, it only magnifies, the enormity of the room whose door has now quietly shut. Stephen Colbert

Upon Awakening

I am a mother, grandmother, teacher; shattered by the loss of the greatest love I have ever been privileged to share, attempting to adopt the poetry and principles of those who have endured before me.

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